We all dream of marrying the perfect person.  When we marry, we all believe at the time of the ceremony that the person standing next to us at the alter is “just perfect.”  Yes, we know deep down inside that nobody is perfect, but in that moment of joy and euphoric feelings the rational thoughts of reality are blurred or buried to live in the dream of marrying Mr. or Miss perfect.

Then it happens.  Six months, maybe a year or two, sometimes it is even 10, 20 or 30 years after we are married we accept even start to resent the fact that we are not married to a perfect person.
It is so amazing how quickly we  point out the imperfections of our mate while ignoring our own imperfections.

Somehow along our marital journey life got busy and we stopped praying together or going to church regularly.  We were busy at work, or with the kids and things around the house that we weren’t spending as much quality time together.  The door was cracked open to allow satan to reach in to create a fire in your relationship.

We get hurt.  Many times we let those hurts go without a word.  Then there are the little things the other person does that aggravates us.  Sure they are small in nature and not worth mentioning.  But after time, as years past, these hurts and little aggravations start to eat at us.  We then start to look at every little thing about our mate that “isn’t perfect” and we start to knit pick at everything.  We don’t hold it in anymore, we express it to the one we love.  Satan is in the house.

We no longer look at our life long covenant spouse as perfect, instead we focus on everything about them that is not perfect.  This is when we need to reach up to God and cry out for His intervention.
I read a quote recently,  I am unsure who the author is but it is profound and something we should all focus on in a marriage.

Love is not finding a perfect person, it is seeing an imperfect person perfectly.

God sees us as as perfectly imperfect.  He give us His unconditional love no matter what we do and no matter how often we turn away from him.  Imagine how wonderful marriage would be if we looked at our spouse the same way God looks at us.

How many marriages would still be if we looked at our spouse as perfectly imperfect.  If we accept them for who they are instead of making them who we want them to be.

There is no way we can do this on your own.  We live in an imperfect world.  But with Christ as our foundation we can see our spouse as “perfect.”   He will also let you see that you are not “perfect.”  After all, how can any of us point out the imperfections of others when we are just as imperfect?

Oh, we all do it.  It is so much easier to focus on someone else’s short comings than our own.  But as we mature, as we grow our relationship with Christ we will focus more and more on improving our own imperfections as well as loving our spouses imperfections.

What better time than today to start improving who you are and loving the imperfections of who your spouse is.